First comes marriage. Then comes a flirtatious colleague.
For starters, radical openness is important because, according to Fromm, the basic premise of love is freedom. Editor’s note, June 14, 8 am ET: We’re bringing...
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The couples using ChatGPT as their therapist
Nick Sadler and his wife had different ideas of what a chill Saturday looked like. He considered the weekend a blank slate — no set...
I don’t want children. I do want children. What should I do?
What do you do about having children? Editor’s note, June 7, 8 am ET: We’re bringing you some of our best-loved Your Mileage May Vary columns while Sigal...
To make friends, join a club. To join a club, find an activity fair.
People participate in the Philadelphia Activities Fair at the Philadelphia Ethical Society on April 12, 2026. | Hannah Beier for Vox Caitlin Squier-Roper, 45, recently...
A DNA test upended my family. Do I side with my grandmother — or her secret child?
Editor’s note, May 31, 8 am ET: We’re bringing you some of our best-loved Your Mileage May Vary columns while Sigal Samuel is on parental...
Why so many people are talking about “holding trauma in your jaw” right now
Why are we talking about the jaw? | Getty Images/CSA Images RF If you’ve ever taken a yoga class or gotten a massage, you may...
You can do everything right and things can still go wrong. “Moral luck” is a way to live with that.
Your Mileage May Vary is an advice column offering you a unique framework for thinking through your moral dilemmas. It’s based on value pluralism — the idea that...
How to fall in love with humanity again
A lot of humans are feeling very down on humanity these days. Maybe you’ve met them. Or maybe you’re one of them. I’m talking about...
How old am I supposed to look?
A few months ago, while engaging in one of my more recent pastimes (or compulsions), I verbalized a fear I’d long kept buried, perhaps out...
“I’m disgusted to be a human”: What to do when you hate your own species
Your Mileage May Vary is an advice column offering you a unique framework for thinking through your moral dilemmas. It’s based on value pluralism — the idea that...